persistent wooer...help!

[jeanie]

well, to add on to what someone has mentioned earlier....

just keep the contact with him as minimal and professional as possible. serious, business-like and no smiling. politely and firmly reject all offers of dinner, dates or presents. do not answer any personal emails, cards, messages, calls etc from him. If he talks mush, excuse yourself and leave immediately. Keep all personal effects locked away, especially anything that has the scent of your perfume.

good reminder.
i'll start tomorrow.

 

[asterixsg]

WOW !!! on to the 14th page now. God bless you, Jeanie. You've got so many well wishers in ClubSNAP ready to offer you advice.

Why don't you just show him this thread ? It will solve the problem.

Sometimes I think I am just lucky I am not a good looking, rich, sexy girl who drives a convertible :bsmilie:
At least I don't have to worry about perverted stalkers. I only have to worry about how to make ends meet.
Now, I couldn't help this one. Sorry. :embrass:

 

[garou12]

good reminder.
i'll start tomorrow.

that's what i suggested doing...let us know how it goes...

 

[eow]

remind me i was kicked out of my job last time a char bor set her eyez on me... ;(

what happened?;p

 

[Michael]

well, to add on to what someone has mentioned earlier....

just keep the contact with him as minimal and professional as possible. serious, business-like and no smiling. politely and firmly reject all offers of dinner, dates or presents. do not answer any personal emails, cards, messages, calls etc from him. If he talks mush, excuse yourself and leave immediately. Keep all personal effects locked away, especially anything that has the scent of your perfume.

and if the gentle method does not help... then no choice but using the sledge hammer method.... a big NO straight upfront into the face
some guys get encouraged by the soft method, makes them think of a challenge, in such cases only brutal force and pain get the message through
Good Luck

 

[jeanie]

WOW !!! on to the 14th page now. God bless you, Jeanie. You've got so many well wishers in ClubSNAP ready to offer you advice.

Why don't you just show him this thread ? It will solve the problem.

Sometimes I think I am just lucky I am not a good looking, rich, sexy girl who drives a convertible :bsmilie:
At least I don't have to worry about perverted stalkers. I only have to worry about how to make ends meet.
Now, I couldn't help this one. Sorry. :embrass:

i have to say, i have some good friends in cs.


correction:2 seater not = to convertible.

hope life's good for you.you havent been keeping in touch with me.:angry:

 

[jeanie]

and if the gentle method does not help... then no choice but using the sledge hammer method.... a big NO straight upfront into the face
some guys get encouraged by the soft method, makes them think of a challenge, in such cases only brutal force and pain get the message through
Good Luck

worse come to worse, i have you to portray as my bf ya!
a rich ang mor!:bsmilie:

 

[zaren]

and if the gentle method does not help... then no choice but using the sledge hammer method.... a big NO straight upfront into the face
some guys get encouraged by the soft method, makes them think of a challenge, in such cases only brutal force and pain get the message through
Good Luck

the big NO didn't work. and jeanie doesn't want to be too cruel.

 

[Michael]

worse come to worse, i have you to portray as my bf ya!
a rich ang mor!:bsmilie:

i thought you said you tried the bf option already and it did not work....

 

[Michael]

the big NO didn't work. and jeanie doesn't want to be too cruel.

nice is good, but desperate times ask for desperate measures... jeanie drop your nice image...

 

[dreaming]

Remember: never look into his eyes when both of you speaks.

don't even bother to look at him at all. lower down your head.

 

[garou12]

carry some pepper spray in your purse in case down the line it gets ugly and he tries to grab you.

 

[garou12]

Remember: never look into his eyes when both of you speaks.

don't even bother to look at him at all. lower down your head.

yea agree your body language can speak at a volume louder than your voice could.

 

[zaren]

Remember: never look into his eyes when both of you speaks.

don't even bother to look at him at all. lower down your head.

nothing wrong to have minimal eye contact. just be sure to look stern and business-like.

 

[garou12]

nothing wrong to have minimal eye contact. just be sure to look stern and business-like.

pay attention to your proximty to him when you have to talk to him though.

 

[zaren]

yea agree your body language can speak at a volume louder than your voice could.

speaking with head lowered all the time gives the body language of being weak and submissive. better to have a straight, assertive posture that exudes power and control.

 

[asterixsg]

i have to say, i have some good friends in cs.


correction:2 seater not = to convertible.

hope life's good for you.you havent been keeping in touch with me.:angry:

huh ? don't have convertible meh ? What does the guy see in you ah ?
If there was a rich, sexy, smart girl in my office, I would make sure that she has at least a convertible before stalking her :bsmilie:

Seriously, jokes apart. You just have to deal this with utmost professionalism. Invite him to your office and tell him that what he is doing to you is affecting your personal life and if he doesn't stop this nonsense, you would be left with no choice but to send in a written complaint to HR.

And handle this before it gets out of hand.

I see that you've been having so many problems - booklice, perverts in office, overperfumed colleague - et al, so not bothering you some more lah !!! Otherwise, next thing I know ah, you'll post in Kopitiam - there is this guy Asterix who's giving me grief. And the whole CS community will huntam me. :bsmilie:

Do let us know once you get this pervert off your back.

Good luck mate.

Cheers.

 

[zaren]

pay attention to your proximty to him when you have to talk to him though.

an arm's length should be fine.

 

[garou12]

speaking with head lowered all the time gives the body language of being weak and submissive. better to have a straight, assertive posture that exudes power and control.

thing is i didn't say to speak with her head lowered. but avoidance of eye contact would be better for her situation.

 

[garou12]

an arm's length should be fine.

yea just don't go into his space bubble or let him come into yours.