persistent wooer...help!

[jeanie]

first thing first...how old r u?:think:
dun need to be exact.....late thirties early forties?
if yes...mai hiam liao

wat a way to find out my age.:bsmilie:
anyway, i'm late twenties.

 

[garou12]

oh, lots of drama.
i havent even mentioned i got to pull out the daggers in my back.

but what to do?no job, no hobby, no car, no photography, no blah blah blah...
part and parcel of working life.
ask those who has been in the workforce for years.they'll know.
sometimes, i'm really tired.

take a vacation lor, life is like that full of drama mamas

 

[nyxx88]

OT: This thread started 4 hours back & it is already at 12 pages???!!!! :bigeyes:

I've got to allocate an hour to read through everything :bsmilie:. Now, back to post #1....

 

[garou12]

best way to solve your problem so others won't be involved (the boss or hr) is just ignore him and act like he doesn't exist. Eventually should get the hint.

 

[Autumnite]

show him this thread...:bsmilie:

 

[jeanie]

best way to solve your problem so others won't be involved (the boss or hr) is just ignore him and act like he doesn't exist. Eventually should get the hint.

3rd time i'm saying this.

we need to communicate as its part of job.

 

[garou12]

3rd time i'm saying this.

we need to communicate as its part of job.

o oops misunderstood your earlier reply when i asked do you have to work directly with him...my bad.

 

[jeanie]

o oops misunderstood your earlier reply when i asked do you have to work directly with him...my bad.

no worries.appreciate all advises...really.

 

[Clown]

no worries.appreciate all advises...really.

put socks at ur crotch under the skirt/jeans/pants.

 

[jeanie]

put socks at ur crotch under the skirt/jeans/pants.

u live up to your nick:bsmilie:

 

[Clown]

u live up to your nick:bsmilie:

of course... now and then bored mah..

 

[Hoky]

lezzie?you mean lesbian?

aiyo, way too extreme lah.i cant.
as i'm waiting for some man on white horse to come by.
what if he comes trotting down one fine day and my colleague tells him i'm les?that will burst all bubbles of hopies!:bheart:

Some man on white horse ar? Kranji got a lot... appears every other racing day..

 

[nyxx88]

Ok, kinda read everything in 20 mins

On a serious note, I think you may need to take several steps, each with increasing levels of escalation. And it needs to be communicated to him in VERY CLEAR terms. Example:
- If he persists, HR will get involved (I really agree with DP on this one)
- If he continues, management will be informed too (prospect of financial & career ruin may wake some people up)
- Raise the matter up to his family/friends
- Seek legal advice/protection (not sure what would legally be considered harassment though)

We can't tell from the thread here, but there is a chance that logical reasoning may not work with him. His blatant disregard of all your rejection is not a good sign -- he might be suffering from some level of obsession.

 

[ahbian]

Forward him this thread.

1) He will be occupied for hours reading 12 pages.
2) He will (hopefully) get the HINT.

 

[satay16]

why not use reverse psychology? just tell him you like him and you wish that you can be with him for the rest of your life.

 

[Sion]

why not use reverse psychology? just tell him you like him and you wish that you can be with him for the rest of your life.

And acting out like in "Fatal Attraction"? :bsmilie:

 

[satay16]

And acting out like in "Fatal Attraction"? :bsmilie:

yeah yeah!!! then he definitely will reject you want. reverse psychology at work.

 

[chynakym]

thanks....

i was really so disgusted about the jacket thing.
but to make one lose his job.i think that's a little drastic.
maybe it's me.but i've yet to train a metal heart.


you guys always mention talk to boss, talk to hr.
ever wonder what will happen after that?it's even MORE awkward, more embarrassing to work.
not to mention if that turns the table around and he starts creating work-related-problems for me.
sigh....there's just no 'perfect way' aint it?:cry:

Problem is if you do not resort to this, the only one losing out is you and no one else. If there is no cry for help, help will not make its way to you. Its a catch 22 situation and its best to have a chit chat with the HR to see if you can both come up with any creative ideas to save face on both sides.

 

[Tupi Guy]

3rd time i'm saying this.

we need to communicate as its part of job.

Since this case, you are worry too if u report it to your boss. THing like he might cause work problems or blah blah blah......

As you stage now, u seem like nothing can "help you". Perhaps it time to change your job.

 

[Keepers]

why not use reverse psychology? just tell him you like him and you wish that you can be with him for the rest of your life.

you still in primary school?..... this method only works in movie la .....:dunno:
remember, our jeanie is pretty, sexy, and most important very rich..... so you want her to tell him that she likes him and want to be with him forever?..... :bsmilie: even dumber wont mind to be with her.....:bsmilie: