Help!!! How to handle love?

[wildstallion]

Hi Stallion:

You have a valid point.

It is possible to love two people at the same time? Have you ever experience it before?

Do you think monogamy is the result of human jealousy and also our desire to have exclusive access to someone?

Yes, it is possible to love two people at the same time, although, I have not experienced it but know of people who have.

Monogamy, may be due to what you have said, but it could also be due to the human need to be loved. I know id want someone around me who loved me, but why not 2 or more? Well, then jealousy would factor in, and in most situations cause alot of problems. In my opinion, monogomy is due to a deep connection that you will not likely find within another soul and therefore want to keep near to you, hence, marriage.

I asked this question to a friend, so you get another view, this is what she replied:

yes
i think its both
but they're both almost as one
cos u need exclusive access to someone to feel secure, but u need to feel secure and feel like u have something and someone to get rid of jealousy of someone else
also because its not right to play around tho

Hope this helps

 

[zeith]

I guess everyone reacts differently to this kind of situation.

You should know how your gf/wife would react if you know her well..

 

[wildstallion]

Just to add:

Sometimes u really just wudnt find another person u connect that deeply with
or when u have one person, u have no desire to find another, it would feel like ur not being loyal

 

[Silence Sky]

You should know how your gf/wife would react if you know her well..

I really wish I could read minds, human are just too complicated. Who knows he/she is just waiting for you to call it off.
It's just like stock market, made up of so many individuals, and its behavior is never rational and can never be predicted.

 

[Lolrence]

I really wish I could read minds, human are just too complicated. Who knows he/she is just waiting for you to call it off.
It's just like stock market, made up of so many individuals, and its behavior is never rational and can never be predicted.

That's when you don't trust her or have faith in her anymore. What makes you say that?

 

[Silence Sky]

Are we all created with love in us? What is the intention of the creator has for us in the game of love?

I can be sure that we all want love and be loved. But at the same time love also caused alot of miseries.

Too much too think.
Good nite my friends.

 

[wildstallion]

Are we all created with love in us? What is the intention of the creator has for us in the game of love?

I can be sure that we all want love and be loved. But at the same time love also caused alot of miseries.

Too much too think.
Good nite my friends.

Good Night and Good Luck

 

[raptor84]

Are we all created with love in us? What is the intention of the creator has for us in the game of love?

I can be sure that we all want love and be loved. But at the same time love also caused alot of miseries.

Too much too think.
Good nite my friends.

I never actively sought someone to love. I never really chased girls or was interested in starting a relationship with another human. I was more intrested in taking photos and learnign about animal behaviour ;p I guess its more that coincidence that I met my current GF. She was going though a rough spot and we seemed to click on so many levels that it seemed to transition seamlessly from friendship to something more.

I guess in that sense we are all made with some notion of love in us but it may take someone else to help us discover that. I guess you should put your faith in whatever god you believe in that he/she/it will know what is best for you. In any relationship both parties have to be completely honest with each other and open communication is important. I really hate it when there are issues left hanging and I always try to resolve it as soon as possible.

As a final tongue in cheek advice ... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mCwKbUVyHLY (my GF sent me this link)

 

[eow]

相爱容易相处难.....
u might not want to admit..u just dun love yr darling as much as before...rite?

 

[raincool2005]

I guess most of us have experienced the feeling of falling in love. The feeling is so electrifying that we constantly crave for it purposely or subconsciously.

The big problem is that you are already attached or married and this lovely lady/man at work suddenly comes into your life. Work brings you both together, his /her mysterious senses arouse your curiosity, his/her personality impressed you, his/her sense of humor mesmerizes you; his/her beauty face march up and down in your skull 24/7. Most importantly he/she gives you that splendid feeling of falling in love once more.

Have you ever been in this situation? And how would you handle this situation?
Are we built in such a way that we can fall in love a lot of times and love not just one person?

nothing is confirmed until u both survived thru a few quarrels.
:sweat:

 

[Clown]

you need to wrap it in money..

 

[kelccm]

You have to look deep inside you. Is it Love or Lust? Most of time it is simply just Lust. Normal human behaviour.

 

[Del_CtrlnoAlt]

Be a man... Do the right thing... ;p

 

[azul123]

You made a vow but if it is no longer working.. you need to sit her down and talk honestly. Also, alot of people don't know what they've got until it is gone.

Imagine this, after breaking up, she finds another... can you take it? seeing her with another man. It's a two way street you know? a woman can get hitch as easily in fact more than a man.

../azul123

 

[Stereobox]

1st come, 1st served!!

 

[Del_CtrlnoAlt]

You made a vow but if it is no longer working.. you need to sit her down and talk honestly. Also, alot of people don't know what they've got until it is gone.

Imagine this, after breaking up, she finds another... can you take it? seeing her with another man. It's a two way street you know? a woman can get hitch as easily in fact more than a man.

../azul123

i think he won't look back when he is with the other girl, unless the other girl is 2 timing him and then he saw the other girl with another guy...

sh!t happens when he have nowhere to dock... thats the worst or should i say best scenario for him anyway. :devil:

 

[azul123]

i think he won't look back when he is with the other girl

This might help. What is it? male chastity belt. It will hurt for every erection.

../azul123

 

[Del_CtrlnoAlt]

This might help. What is it? male chastity belt. It will hurt for every erection.

../azul123

damnit... i think he'll pee on his pants everytime... so much so he have to ask girls how they pee... :bsmilie:

 

[arpinkor]

Have you ever been in this situation? And how would you handle this situation?
Are we built in such a way that we can fall in love a lot of times and love not just one person?

This kind of situation is very normal, even after you have steady bf/gf or married. There's nothing wrong with you. The difference between people is how they handle it. Me, I take conscious steps to minimize seeing that person or coming into contact, although if it's at work, it may not be fully avoidable. Anyway, keep your head clear, it's not love, it's just lust. Enjoy the feeling while it lasts but don't get carried away.

 

[Eyesthruthelens]

I think the outcome will be decided by you.. yourself.
It's perfectly fine to love.. and it's a great thing to do but in this case, it's not only love.. it's commitment as well.

You need to ask yourself this question:
Do you still love your gf or wife.. Do you want to start a relationship with another girl.

If you decided to stay with your gf or wife..
- whenever you are with this new girl.. tell her how great your gf or wife is.. she will leave you eventually.

If you decided to leave your gf or wife..
- think back the first time you started the relationship with her.. this will make you recall the reason why you love her in the first place..

I guess most of us have experienced the feeling of falling in love. The feeling is so electrifying that we constantly crave for it purposely or subconsciously.

The big problem is that you are already attached or married and this lovely lady/man at work suddenly comes into your life. Work brings you both together, his /her mysterious senses arouse your curiosity, his/her personality impressed you, his/her sense of humor mesmerizes you; his/her beauty face march up and down in your skull 24/7. Most importantly he/she gives you that splendid feeling of falling in love once more.

Have you ever been in this situation? And how would you handle this situation?
Are we built in such a way that we can fall in love a lot of times and love not just one person?