Help!!! How to handle love?
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Del_CtrlnoAlt
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The force is weak with this 1... :devil:
/me wave hand infront of TS... Go back to your wife...
TS: Go back to my wife [starts walking off]
Francis247
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Not sure if you can read Chinese.
人生就是为了找寻爱的过程，每个人的人生都要找到四个人。
第一个是自己,
第二个是你最爱的人，
第三个是最爱你的人，
第四个是共度一生的人.
首先会遇到你最爱的人，然後体会到爱的感觉；
因为了解被爱的感觉，所以才能发现最爱你的人；
当你经历过爱人与被爱，学会了爱，才会知道什么是你需要的，
也才会找到最适合你，能够相处一辈子的人。
但很悲哀的，在现实生活中，这三个人通常不是同一个人；
你最爱的，往往没有选择你；
最爱你的，往往不是你最爱的；
而最长久的，偏偏不是你最爱也不是最爱你的，
只是在最适合的时间出现的那个人。
你，会是别人生命中的第几个人呢？
没有人是故意要变心的，他爱你的时候是真的爱你，
可是他不爱你的时候也是真的不爱你了，
他爱你的时候没有办法假装不爱你；
同样的，他不爱你的时候也没有办法假装爱你 。
当一个人不爱你要离开你，
你要问自己还爱不爱他，
如果你也不爱他了，千万别为了可怜的自尊而不肯离开；
如果你还爱他，你应该会希望他过得幸福快乐，
希望他跟真正爱的人在一起，绝不会阻止，
你要是阻止他得到真正的幸福，就表示你已经不爱他了，
而如果你不爱他，你又有什么资格指责他变心呢？
爱不是占有，
你喜欢月亮，不可能把月亮拿下来放在脸盆里，
但月亮的光芒仍可照进你的房间。
换句话说，你爱一个人，也可以用另一种方式拥有，
让爱人成为生命里的永恒回忆，
如果你真爱一个人，就要爱他原来的样子─爱他的好，也爱他的坏：
爱他的优点，也爱他的缺点，
绝不能因为爱他，就希望他变成自己所希望的样子，
万一变不成就不爱他了。
真正爱一个人是无法说出原因的，
你只知道无论何时何地、心情好坏，你都希望这个人陪著你；
真正的感情是两人能在最艰苦中相守，也就是没有丝毫要求。
毕竟，感情必须付出，而不是只想获得；
分开是一种必然的考验，
如果你们感情不够稳固，只好认输，
真爱是不会变成怨恨的。
两人在谈情说爱的时候，
最喜欢叫对方发誓，许下承诺我们为什么要对方发誓，
就是因为我们不相信对方，我们根本不相信情人，
而这些山盟海誓又很不切实际：
海枯石烂、地老天荒，都不能改变我对你的爱!
明知道海不会枯、石不会烂、地不会老、天不会荒；
就算会，也活不到那时候。
许下诺言的时候千万注意，不要许下可以实现的诺言，
最好是承诺做不到的事，
反正做不到的，随便说说也不要紧，
请记住：不可能实现的诺言最动人
在爱情里，说的是一套，做的是另一套；
讲的人不相信，听的人也不相信。
你呢？找到了第几个？
茫茫人海中，你遇见了谁？谁又遇见了你？
祝愿天下有情人终成眷属
人生就是为了找寻爱的过程，每个人的人生都要找到四个人。
第一个是自己,
第二个是你最爱的人，
第三个是最爱你的人，
第四个是共度一生的人.
首先会遇到你最爱的人，然後体会到爱的感觉；
因为了解被爱的感觉，所以才能发现最爱你的人；
当你经历过爱人与被爱，学会了爱，才会知道什么是你需要的，
也才会找到最适合你，能够相处一辈子的人。
但很悲哀的，在现实生活中，这三个人通常不是同一个人；
你最爱的，往往没有选择你；
最爱你的，往往不是你最爱的；
而最长久的，偏偏不是你最爱也不是最爱你的，
只是在最适合的时间出现的那个人。
你，会是别人生命中的第几个人呢？
没有人是故意要变心的，他爱你的时候是真的爱你，
可是他不爱你的时候也是真的不爱你了，
他爱你的时候没有办法假装不爱你；
同样的，他不爱你的时候也没有办法假装爱你 。
当一个人不爱你要离开你，
你要问自己还爱不爱他，
如果你也不爱他了，千万别为了可怜的自尊而不肯离开；
如果你还爱他，你应该会希望他过得幸福快乐，
希望他跟真正爱的人在一起，绝不会阻止，
你要是阻止他得到真正的幸福，就表示你已经不爱他了，
而如果你不爱他，你又有什么资格指责他变心呢？
爱不是占有，
你喜欢月亮，不可能把月亮拿下来放在脸盆里，
但月亮的光芒仍可照进你的房间。
换句话说，你爱一个人，也可以用另一种方式拥有，
让爱人成为生命里的永恒回忆，
如果你真爱一个人，就要爱他原来的样子─爱他的好，也爱他的坏：
爱他的优点，也爱他的缺点，
绝不能因为爱他，就希望他变成自己所希望的样子，
万一变不成就不爱他了。
真正爱一个人是无法说出原因的，
你只知道无论何时何地、心情好坏，你都希望这个人陪著你；
真正的感情是两人能在最艰苦中相守，也就是没有丝毫要求。
毕竟，感情必须付出，而不是只想获得；
分开是一种必然的考验，
如果你们感情不够稳固，只好认输，
真爱是不会变成怨恨的。
两人在谈情说爱的时候，
最喜欢叫对方发誓，许下承诺我们为什么要对方发誓，
就是因为我们不相信对方，我们根本不相信情人，
而这些山盟海誓又很不切实际：
海枯石烂、地老天荒，都不能改变我对你的爱!
明知道海不会枯、石不会烂、地不会老、天不会荒；
就算会，也活不到那时候。
许下诺言的时候千万注意，不要许下可以实现的诺言，
最好是承诺做不到的事，
反正做不到的，随便说说也不要紧，
请记住：不可能实现的诺言最动人
在爱情里，说的是一套，做的是另一套；
讲的人不相信，听的人也不相信。
你呢？找到了第几个？
茫茫人海中，你遇见了谁？谁又遇见了你？
祝愿天下有情人终成眷属
Sion
Senior Member
Yes I had been in this situation many times.
Unfortunately for me my boss was my wife.
when you are with someone for long, things get stagnant sometimes. everything becomes routine and a big yawn comes along. when another (new) person comes along and everything seems 'magical' and most ppl think it's love.
they always say, you wont be with the one you love. but i always wonder : what is it that we 'love' this person so much ?
love wont last as there's no such thing as eternity, that's why one of the vows of marriage is 'till death do us apart'.
i dont know how to advise you either, 'cept you only get to live once. choose carefully and dont ever regret your decision. good luck :lovegrin:
they always say, you wont be with the one you love. but i always wonder : what is it that we 'love' this person so much ?
love wont last as there's no such thing as eternity, that's why one of the vows of marriage is 'till death do us apart'.
i dont know how to advise you either, 'cept you only get to live once. choose carefully and dont ever regret your decision. good luck :lovegrin:
Silence Sky
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I have heard a lot of people purporting the importance of honesty in a relationship.
But from my experiences, honesty is not necessary a good practice.
My friend honestly, told his GF, he wanted to quit because he has found his true love.
GF: If you have decided to leave me, I will jump right out of your houses window.
BF: No Please dont do anything foolish, it is foolish of me to desert you.
GF: Prove it to me, Marry Me!!
My friend being Mr Nice back down on his decision to call off the relation and eventually entered a forced marriage. Has an adorable child after one year into the marriage.
Is it a happy ending?
No, it is the beginning of hell. You can imagine his plight when his wife cant forget about his true love.
Conclusion
His honesty has done him in. Breaking off is itself an act, do it properly and tastefully you will be spare the dire consequences.
raptor84
Senior Member
yes he was honest but the GF seems too emotional and unstable to threaten to jump like that he problably would have made a wise desicsion to walk away then and there. How can you say he was 'honest' when he said "BF: No Please dont do anything foolish, it is foolish of me to desert you. " when what he truely wanted was another girl?
So in the end he was unhappy becuase he was dis-honest and only married her to pacify her and not because the truly loved her.
Silence Sky
Deregistered
I like this one very much. You think going to prostitution meh?? 1st come, 1st served.
Silence Sky
Deregistered
Not everyone can handle the truth, so before being too honest better check the tolerance level of your partner. Anyone with any ideas how to?
Is white lie acceptable to most of us? At that critical time, do we still expect him to be honest and frank? You can jump off from anywhere but not from my window. After you jump I will still be as happy.
Silence Sky
Deregistered
Yes I had been in this situation many times.
Unfortunately for me my boss was my wife.
Hahaha... So you got involved with your boss!!! Serve you right.
There is no right or wrong in love. Because of love, brilliant minds can also succumbed.
I can still remember the marriage of Princess Di. What a fairy tale marriage it was.....
Recently, I went through the same trough.
The woman I love was outlandish, and I was reserved. But the funny thing was, I still love her...
The only thing I could have done was via the translation of this Chinese Song:
I promised too much Or I still din give enough
You alway have enough reasons But I still try to blend with your wishes
Let you be crazy Let you loosen up Hope one day you will be touched
I pretend to be unmoved by rumours
Till all the dreams are tried Till you are satisfied
I want another try I want to ask who do you love
If love is so hard to tell from right or wrong Then don't run be brave
The heart you gave him Can you still ask it to come back
How can I be angry for your mistake It was I who gave you too much freedom *beyond limit*
Caused you to aloof Embroiled in the current
How can I let you suffer It was I who gave you too much freedom *beyond limit*
If you want to fly Let me bear your pains
The last thing I can ever do is wish her well, and sms her that there will alway be a place for her in my heart.
If it is love, nothing can stop you or hold you back.
Just remember, you reap what you sow.
What is love?
红尘自有痴情者
莫笑痴情太痴狂
若非一番寒澈骨
那得梅花扑鼻香
问世间情为何物
只教人生死相许
看人间多少故事
最消魂梅花三弄
(白：
“梅花一弄断人肠”
“梅花二弄费思量”
“梅花三弄风波起”
“云烟深处水茫茫”
Love is eternal. Be it the wronged kind of love. It is memory you can't rub away.
However, we only live once. Treasure it if you got the chance.
I can still remember the marriage of Princess Di. What a fairy tale marriage it was.....
Recently, I went through the same trough.
The woman I love was outlandish, and I was reserved. But the funny thing was, I still love her...
The only thing I could have done was via the translation of this Chinese Song:
I promised too much Or I still din give enough
You alway have enough reasons But I still try to blend with your wishes
Let you be crazy Let you loosen up Hope one day you will be touched
I pretend to be unmoved by rumours
Till all the dreams are tried Till you are satisfied
I want another try I want to ask who do you love
If love is so hard to tell from right or wrong Then don't run be brave
The heart you gave him Can you still ask it to come back
How can I be angry for your mistake It was I who gave you too much freedom *beyond limit*
Caused you to aloof Embroiled in the current
How can I let you suffer It was I who gave you too much freedom *beyond limit*
If you want to fly Let me bear your pains
The last thing I can ever do is wish her well, and sms her that there will alway be a place for her in my heart.
If it is love, nothing can stop you or hold you back.
Just remember, you reap what you sow.
What is love?
红尘自有痴情者
莫笑痴情太痴狂
若非一番寒澈骨
那得梅花扑鼻香
问世间情为何物
只教人生死相许
看人间多少故事
最消魂梅花三弄
(白：
“梅花一弄断人肠”
“梅花二弄费思量”
“梅花三弄风波起”
“云烟深处水茫茫”
Love is eternal. Be it the wronged kind of love. It is memory you can't rub away.
However, we only live once. Treasure it if you got the chance.
centuryegg
New Member
End of the day, before you go forward for something new and fresh, look back at your present relationship. Think of the good times and most importantly of the good times, think if she has stood by you when things were rough, comfort you when you were down, be your beacon when everyone else has abandoned you. Think of how she has put up with your nonsense and the rough patches you both and weathered through.
It is very easy to fall for new and exciting things and say "I have fallen in love" but love is not just about good feelings, it is also about bad ones. About when you both fell out but yet deep inside you still love each other.
If you go for the new one based on good feelings then one day you will part with her too because when a new one comes and once again you are attracted to the new and exciting feelings, she becomes boring to you.
It is very easy to fall for new and exciting things and say "I have fallen in love" but love is not just about good feelings, it is also about bad ones. About when you both fell out but yet deep inside you still love each other.
If you go for the new one based on good feelings then one day you will part with her too because when a new one comes and once again you are attracted to the new and exciting feelings, she becomes boring to you.
Del_CtrlnoAlt
Senior Member
Yes I had been in this situation many times.
Unfortunately for me my boss was my wife.
over mountains over trees...
over oceans over seas...
across the desert, your wife is there...
in a whisper on the wind
on the smile of your new friend
just think of her
and she'll be there...
dun be afraid... of your love, as she'll be watching u from above... :devil:
and she'd give all the hell tonight, to be with u...
because she's on your side, and who else cares,
u may have died, but have gone nowhere...
Just think of her... and u'll beware...:devil:
Del_CtrlnoAlt
Senior Member
u mean your wife & your fren's wife is the same wife?
i believe everyone is different, same goes to wives... if u dun understand her, no one else would... anyway, if u wanna have flings, no need to seek permission here, neither do you need blessing for anything u about to do. :sticktong
i agree with centuryegg on what he said. Just remember that there's no right or wrong in a relationship and no one is in any position to advise you what to do. Cause you will be the one to bear the consequences.
Your situation is not unique and i guess quite a lot of people has that feeling of falling in love with someone else even though they have gf/ wife. It could really be due to being in a realtionship for too long and thus things get stagnant. That's why there should be progress in a relationship. e.g from courtship to steady, from steady to marriage, from marriage to having children. These are the stages in life that will keep the feeling new and refreshed. If you stay at any one stage for too long, things will get boring and you may "fall in love" with another gal.
It is always important to think of the good moments that you have with your current gf/ wife before makign a decision. I have the same mistake once and i still regret it. I broke off with a gal which i realised later that i really love her but she is already with someone else and is planning for marriage.
People used to say you treasure those things that you lost and this could really be one of those cases. And things once lost, you will seldom be able to get it back.
So think carefully what you want before you decide on your action. cause you must not regret whatever decision you make.
The One You Love ~ Glenn Frey
I know you need a friend, someone you can talk to
Who will understand what you're going through
When it comes to love, there's no easy answer
Only you can say what you're gonna do
I heard you on the phone, you took his number
Said you weren't alone, but you'd call him soon
Isn't he the guy, the guy who left you cryin'?
Isn't he the one who made you blue?
When you remember those nights in his arms
You know you gotta make up your mind
Are you gonna stay with the one who loves you
Or are you goin' back to the one you love?
Someone's gonna cry when they know they've lost you
Someone's gonna thank the stars above
What you gonna say when he comes over?
There's no easy way to see this through
All the broken dreams, all the disappointment
Oh girl, what you gonna do?
Your heart keeps sayin' it's just not fair
But still you gotta make up your mind
Are you gonna stay with the one who loves you
Or are you goin' back to the one you love?
Someone's gonna cry when they know they've lost you
Someone's gonna thank the stars above
Although in this case its one gal and 2 guys....
Yes, it can happen, what are you gonna do...
If you're French, its easy... they go by how they feel... :bsmilie:
I know you need a friend, someone you can talk to
Who will understand what you're going through
When it comes to love, there's no easy answer
Only you can say what you're gonna do
I heard you on the phone, you took his number
Said you weren't alone, but you'd call him soon
Isn't he the guy, the guy who left you cryin'?
Isn't he the one who made you blue?
When you remember those nights in his arms
You know you gotta make up your mind
Are you gonna stay with the one who loves you
Or are you goin' back to the one you love?
Someone's gonna cry when they know they've lost you
Someone's gonna thank the stars above
What you gonna say when he comes over?
There's no easy way to see this through
All the broken dreams, all the disappointment
Oh girl, what you gonna do?
Your heart keeps sayin' it's just not fair
But still you gotta make up your mind
Are you gonna stay with the one who loves you
Or are you goin' back to the one you love?
Someone's gonna cry when they know they've lost you
Someone's gonna thank the stars above
Although in this case its one gal and 2 guys....
Yes, it can happen, what are you gonna do...
If you're French, its easy... they go by how they feel... :bsmilie:
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