Why Blacklist Me?

[offroad]

Hi Guys, I will like to clarify an incident with 9438X484 - Max. (Moderator, pls don't remove my thread. Just want to clear this up)

Was looking for a suitable camera Bag for my D70 for the past few days. Notice that this gentleman was selling his used bag at $X (most recent post). As I did a search, notice that he posted another 4 posts previously which out of these 4 posts, 3 posts were quoted lower.

I smsed to ask wats the price? And requested for the lower quote. He's kind enough to agreed to it and so I arranged to pick up from him next day after work but politely asked if he's ok to let me take a look and feel the bag before i decide to buy. His reply: "K".

I did a research after this and notice the cost price of a new bag is only another $10 over bucks. After considering, its really no point for me to get a used bag if I can pay just $10 plus bucks for a new one. I guess most will agree to this logi.

I dropped a final sms to him and explain the rational behind why I have changed my mind. I even apologised to him. His reply: "K".

To my surpise, he balcklisted me in his thread a few hours later. OMG, how can he do this? I'm rather upset by what he has done. And why should he take it so personnal? :dunno:

Agreed that I didn't do enough homework which caused this unpleasant encounter. If i have pissed Max off, will like to apologise again. :embrass: But please, don't take it so personal. Also, you may want to have some consistency with your price next time.

 

[ortega]

what is there to clear?

post a link

 

[offroad]

http://www.clubsnap.com/forums/showthread.php?t=505137

 

[ricohflex]

Because he said don't contact him if you are not ok with his price. Anyway, the tone of the advert seemed a little acsi. If I were you, your attitude should be (in this case) - who cares?
Anyway, best if both of you can be angry with each other privately and trade PMs, not in open area.

 

[swishbrade]

Because he said don't contact him if you are not ok with his price. Anyway, the tone of the advert seemed a little acsi.

Confirmed that the 'acsi' tone was felt from my end as well:bsmilie:

 

[offroad]

Bros - just want to clear this to prevent any further misunderstanding. I want to have friends here not enemies

 

[chngpe01]

There are all sort of ppl in CS. Learn to live with it and not lose sleep over it. He has a right to blacklist you and you can do the same too.

For a moment I thought CS, blacklist you that will be a concern for you, but you are ok

Move on

 

[vince123123]

The reason why he needs to post this in a thread is because the seller has posted publicly as well - hence, PMs will not be appropriate for this. If the seller had pm-ed him saying "you are blacklisted", then it can be confined to pms.

Because he said don't contact him if you are not ok with his price. Anyway, the tone of the advert seemed a little acsi. If I were you, your attitude should be (in this case) - who cares?
Anyway, best if both of you can be angry with each other privately and trade PMs, not in open area.

 

[catchlights]

you are only blacklisted by a seller, not the whole CS, why worry?

types of people in CS are many.

and you just encountered one....... without spending any money.

why don't you just move on and be merry?

 

[synapseman]

Dude. I also say, let it go, take it easy.

I also had this experience before. I admit my fault, apologised, he said "ok", and then later sent me a nasty PM. As long as you tried your best to be civil and reasonable, if people still cannot take it, so be it.

Can't please the whole world, man...

 

[mcn]

i suggest u move on

u cud not be worse than me

i had a poll on me some time back just because i always use the 3-letter-word and address by another gender; just my bad habits

so move on

 

[vince123123]

I'm not sure why there are so many calls for the TS to move on. The TS's posts do not indicate to me that he has not "moved on" or is harping on or trying to prolong the discussion, or tryign to find ways to seek revenge or the like. He merely posted a clarification thread because another person has posted openly blacklisting him, so the clarification is to dispel any doubts that he is a bad buyer and to present his side of the story.

 

[Dream Merchant]

If you did not make a clear promise saying that you WILL definitely buy it, and gave him at least some advance notice of you not wanting to meet and carry out the inspection and possible transaction (1 day minimum is reasonable in my books), you're not obligated to anything.

If you gave clear indication you were going to buy it (assuming that nothing is found to be wrong with the item during the meet-up and inspection), then you would have to honour your word, if doing the correct thing is important to you.

Even though it's the wild wild west in here, a man's word is still his honour. Unfortunately, many choose otherwise.

 

[Dream Merchant]

I'm not sure why there are so many calls for the TS to move on. The TS's posts do not indicate to me that he has not "moved on" or is harping on or trying to prolong the discussion, or tryign to find ways to seek revenge or the like. He merely posted a clarification thread because another person has posted openly blacklisting him, so the clarification is to dispel any doubts that he is a bad buyer and to present his side of the story.

I suspect it's the way that many members cope when faced with an unfair situation, or if they got stood up, treated unfairly or cheated.

"Small thing lah, forget about it and just move on ... "

 

[Xiao_shin]

He BL you, you BL him back.

 

[vince123123]

Honestly, I don't know why man? Why are people allowing themselves to be a pushover?

The funny thing is, these thing seldom happen to me hahah! I dont get a chance to push back! So next best thing is to tell others they shd push back

The thing about allowing yourself to be a pushover is, the pusher then becomes emboldened and he does it to more and more others.

I suspect it's the way that many members cope when faced with an unfair situation, or if they got stood up, treated unfairly or cheated.

"Small thing lah, forget about it and just move on ... "

 

[chngpe01]

Honestly, I don't know why man? Why are people allowing themselves to be a pushover?

The funny thing is, these thing seldom happen to me hahah! I dont get a chance to push back! So next best thing is to tell others they shd push back

The thing about allowing yourself to be a pushover is, the pusher then becomes emboldened and he does it to more and more others.

Small matter what push over?

Fighter fish or what.

Small thing also want to fight, just move on in life. The are so many meaningful things in life to do than winning an argument or fight over the internet esp CS boalio issues

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