ghost77 said:Get a wife to do that? No:nono: I can't do that. Thanks anyway.
That's the spirit , man. :thumbsup:
Dun get a wife because just for the sake of looking old folks or house cleaning
ghost77 said:Get a wife to do that? No:nono: I can't do that. Thanks anyway.
jsbn said:Well, I'm single, staying with my parents and no, I dun stay alone with them.
So I can't relate my experiences.
jsbn said:Read: W.I.F.E. not a maid.
U dun get ya wife to do ya chores for u.
Haze said:no lah i not mean that
Got a wife, can help you take care of your parent when she not around
then can share your happy and sorrow ma
a Soul partner .. not bad wow
ghost77 said:Well, maybe it's time for you give a helping hand for your parent. You are lucky that someone over there is doing all these things for you. Put you hand in it and do it for maybe 3 years and share your experience with us.
ghost77 said:No problem at all. It is just only a suggestion from you of me getting a wife. I believed there is always a way out even this doesn't work.
Haze said:hmmm i think u feel much better after we keep bomb ba here..
good to let out your "frustration"
ghost77 said:I never said I can't stand them. If I can't stand I would not have them stay with me for so many years and take care of them for so many years.
I just hoping that someone out there having the same problem with me and care to share the experience with me.
Canonised said:It is very easy to make comments and suggestions here but there will not be an perfect answer for ghost77. On the one camp the ppl are asking ghost to tolerate and remember about how ....
It's good that you let out the hot air and allowed fresh air to kool your thoughts. If it is a consolation to you, i think your situation is NOT unique. Many many other ppl have been in the same situation like you and some have taken it as a big problem while other view it as life's minor irritant. Different ppl solved this "problem" differently. Most of the time, these ppl will feel that they DID the right thing. :think:ghost77 said:Thanks Canonised. I am still trying to talk to them and I think my parents are trying to help me one way or another. It's just that this morning I was so fustrated that I decided to send this message out and hoping maybe someone out there sharing the same probelm as mine and at least I have someone to talk to or maybe to discuss a better way out.
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this is not the correct analogy .... it should be how our parents coped with their parents. As for parents, it is normal that most of us can accept our kids' behaviour because we all know that kids are still kids.Nikonnew said:it is only a guess,...... but when you were younger, I am quite sure you played with food, messed up the place with pee and ****, did not quite keep your toys in place....maybe pasted some stickers of "superman" under the table......do not look too far for anybody else whom has the same problem with you......I am guessing that your parents had the same problem when they were taking care of you when you were a kid.....why don't you ask them how they coped, they might have some experience to share with you
Canonised said:It's good that you let out the hot air and allowed fresh air to kool your thoughts. If it is a consolation to you, i think your situation is NOT unique. Many many other ppl have been in the same situation like you and some have taken it as a big problem while other view it as life's minor irritant. Different ppl solved this "problem" differently. Most of the time, these ppl will feel that they DID the right thing. :think:
Whatever you do, just be honest to yourself.
But fundamentally you must set some rules (to govern). Discuss these rules and ensure that if your parents are staying with you they must be active players (just like old folks home, with little exception). Tell them that only with house rules can there be harmony and happiness in the home. Old folks are like little kids, they want and need attention. No point in telling them what and what not to do, but instead tell them they did a wonderful job but could be better if they have some improvements, etc... Kind but firm management.
this is not the correct analogy .... it should be how our parents coped with their parents. As for parents, it is normal that most of us can accept our kids' behaviour because we all know that kids are still kids.
Vincere said:i believe most of us understand your situation. just that most never have the same encounter as you that's why we may not able provide you with best solution to comfort you.
just to share with you this... a colleague of mine has an elderly sick dad. he has to bath for him etc., & do all house works. he is those type of man with extreme cool temper. he often worry for his dad health and he too feel tire doing all those for years (simple word from him 'he has no other choice'). he didn't hire a partime maid because his income is just enough for his basic needs. he has been spending much money on his dad's medical bills.
i believe, love will make us more patient/tolerate/endure etc. under one roof.
wish you have a wonderful CNY with your parents.
ghost77 said:Anybody out there single and staying with your parent?
I understand old folks they have some bad habbit and they can't change overnight.
How do you overcome this problem if you are the only one who is staying with them and taking care of them?
Care to share your experience?
AngelZhou said:I dont stay wif my parent now but I stay wif my guardian. N a lot of curfew such as 'must reach home before midnight' 'cannot go out too often' etc etc. Well, since it's THEIR place nothing much I can do rather than trying to comprimise.