Do you mind carry your gf's bag???

[linkandzelda]

women have men for good reason too

A+ comment!!

 

[sORe-EyEz]

women have men for good reason too

otherwise got nobody to kpkb? :bsmilie:

 

[entropy_h]

but sometimes the feeling's really nice when our partners carry our bags for us.

Why does it feel "nice"? How does him carrying your handbag make you feel "nice"? You mean it's come to the point where a man has to carry a woman's handbag to show that he cares about her? If that's the case, then the relationship is already doomed from the start.

There are gentlemanly things to do, like opening the door, holding the chair as she sits down, etc etc. But holding a woman's handbag is not one of them.

Thank god my girlfriend think it's completely stupid as well.

 

[viix]

How nice depends on how intimate the emotional level of relationship is.. Most hold back on doing too much for fear of being hurt which is probably why men have egos and ladies have mood swings.. past that and it's a whole new level but Singaporean generally go through the motion (date - steady - marriage - kids) in relationships so YMMV..

 

[viix]

There are gentlemanly things to do, like opening the door, holding the chair as she sits down, etc etc. But holding a woman's handbag is not one of them.

Actually all these holding chair and opening door is basic social etiquette, not something special you do for a GF.. I do this for every girl, auntie, granny, even uncles.. but for the wifey/girlfriend, it's should be a mile more..
Most of us take basic courtesy as something special we do for someone.. it's no wonder we are a crude and kiasu society still so self serving and self righteous.

 

[sORe-EyEz]

for a start society should just dump yesteryear's benchmark on roles both genders are expected. fastforward today, some cling on to them as a leverage for unnecessory tit-for-tat spates.

peel prawns, hold handbag, open doors, do housework, tend the kids, do dishes, cook & so on. if things issues can cause a major rift in any relationship. finish liao, cos there r bigger issues awaiting.

 

[viix]

for a start society should just dump yesteryear's benchmark on roles both genders are expected. fastforward today, some cling on to them as a leverage for unnecessory tit-for-tat spates.

peel prawns, hold handbag, open doors, do housework, tend the kids, do dishes, cook & so on. if things issues can cause a major rift in any relationship. finish liao, cos there r bigger issues awaiting.

This is why this generation bitch and whine about such minor issues as above.. these are basic courtesy, but we must appreciate it as we are living in a privilege society and should not expect it as a right because of their gender roles.. Don't mix up the 2 separate issues here..
Generally relationships of Singaporean are pretty shallow/through the motion.. quarreling over issues as above.. then big issues how to handle? Procrastinating about it is more work than actually doing that something nice so I really wonder why people bother whining? To make a stand for that inner ego that's only serve 1 purpose, to prove they are the alpha male?? It only serve to undermine the instability of the fundamentally weak relationship.

It's the basic reason why there are so many relationships no longer straight/lasting as they succumb to pressures of society and rebel against it for the wrong reasons..

 

[linkandzelda]

Why does it feel "nice"? How does him carrying your handbag make you feel "nice"? You mean it's come to the point where a man has to carry a woman's handbag to show that he cares about her? If that's the case, then the relationship is already doomed from the start.

There are gentlemanly things to do, like opening the door, holding the chair as she sits down, etc etc. But holding a woman's handbag is not one of them.

Thank god my girlfriend think it's completely stupid as well.

to answer your question: How does him carrying your handbag make you feel "nice"?

it gives us (excluding your girlfriend maybe) the being pampered, manja feeling.

your thought about it didnt come close to the "nice" feeling that i intended, if you must know.

i dont find carrying wife's/gf's bag as a gentlemanly gesture anyways. heh

 

[viix]

Which is why I always feel, don't talk the talk if you can't walk the walk.. don't be in relationships if you can't live 2 lives and more when you have children.. it's not you happy I happy can liao.. everyone stills wants to be in relationship and still live their own live.. Anyway it's too much OT from the handbag topic so I will end here..

 

[furrycake]

Which is why I always feel, don't talk the talk if you can't walk the walk.. don't be in relationships if you can't live 2 lives and more when you have children.. it's not you happy I happy can liao.. everyone stills wants to be in relationship and still live their own live.. Anyway it's too much OT from the handbag topic so I will end here..

i wonder how many guys will want to bash me up now.

if cant even carry a handbag for gf, next time how to shoulder other responsibilities for the relationship later on aiyo...


just a nice gesture but if the guy doesnt want, so be it :dunno:

 

[riotvan]

if it's a huge heavy bag, of course helping out with the burden is fine.

but i've seen guys carrying their gf's expensive tiny little handbags.

seriously... what are the hangbags for? might as well put your stuff in the guy's bags.

 

[viix]

if it's a huge heavy bag, of course helping out with the burden is fine.

but i've seen guys carrying their gf's expensive tiny little handbags.

seriously... what are the hangbags for? might as well put your stuff in the guy's bags.

Ok, this I have to chip in, why bother if it's a tiny bag? I've never encountered being asked or offer to carry those tiny clutches.. I know I'll misplace it if it's not of a significant weight! :bsmilie:

 

[linkandzelda]

if it's a huge heavy bag, of course helping out with the burden is fine.

but i've seen guys carrying their gf's expensive tiny little handbags.

seriously... what are the hangbags for? might as well put your stuff in the guy's bags.

i've seen some guys carry their partner's little handbags too!

imo,
- ugly sight
- makes no sense

 

[David Kwok]

Need a mega mac ? :bsmilie:

 

[viix]

Need a mega mac ? :bsmilie:

:bsmilie: But back on the topic, as man age, generally most issues become non issues.. ****, means I'm old liao..

 

[sORe-EyEz]

maybe guys should have SAF's Ali-Baba bag. few gals bag cant fit in there for sure! :bsmilie:

 

[linkandzelda]

Need a mega mac ? :bsmilie:

i think some people in this forum do :sweatsm:

hahah thanks for the perfect timing and light comment lulz

 

[cereal]

If my wife or girlfriend have this kinda of mentality, I would throw the bag into the rubbish bin.. haha

Why does it feel "nice"? How does him carrying your handbag make you feel "nice"? You mean it's come to the point where a man has to carry a woman's handbag to show that he cares about her? If that's the case, then the relationship is already doomed from the start.

There are gentlemanly things to do, like opening the door, holding the chair as she sits down, etc etc. But holding a woman's handbag is not one of them.

Thank god my girlfriend think it's completely stupid as well.

 

[sammy888]

If my wife or girlfriend have this kinda of mentality, I would throw the bag into the rubbish bin.. haha

You might as well toss in your sex life into the bin too hehehehe.....

 

[Catalyst]

Think it depends on the situation.. if she needs to go into the fitting room or washroom, yes. For shopping, i think i would rather carry the shopping bags cos it makes more sense. I saw an incident few weeks ago.. the guy was carrying the small handbag for his gf (and nothing else) on a bus while the gf was on the phone talking and admiring her manicure.. i think this guy deserves a double mega mac lah..

As much as i like to respect my gf, i would like her to respct me too.. it should works both ways.