query about LTC's career

[redstone]

aiyo, this is not for banking sector...

you must see who's asking...

:sweat:

My ex-colleague's friend is in her late 20s, earning "5 figure" a mth as a private banker (or was it investor). But she's on call 24/7, has hardly any time for herself.
:think:

 

[zaren]

not in this lifetime, maybe next.

:bsmilie:

if you become a world famous photographer earning tons of moolah, who knows? jeanie might be interested. but your penchant for pentax is a definite no-no for her.

:bsmilie:

 

[night86mare]

My ex-colleague's friend is in her late 20s, earning "5 figure" a mth as a private banker (or was it investor). But she's on call 24/7, has hardly any time for herself.
:think:

people have different priorities.

some people want work-life balance, some people want to throw themselves into work.

that makes the world interesting, there is no need to force your values on others. me, i also don't want to do such a job. even if i wanted to put in effort into my work i would like to achieve something more for this world, or society. but i have loads of friends i enjoy talking to, who throw themselves into work. as long as i think they know what they're doing, and have made a conscious choice, who am i to choose for them?

 

[night86mare]

if you become a world famous photographer earning tons of moolah, who knows? jeanie might be interested. but your penchant for pentax is a definite no-no for her.

:bsmilie:

:sweat:

 

[zaren]

I think he is "underaged" for Jeanie :bsmilie:

jeanie that old meh? :think:

 

[sinned79]

jeanie zeh zeh

some suggestions for you, humble ones. you also know i never really laugh at you, when i laugh i always laugh at everyone. :bsmilie:

i agree with you, money is important. i also agree with you that you have a right to determine your own criteria for lifelong partners. that's fair enough. but don't forget that people also have a right to feel about this criteria.

i'm not you, i don't own many cars, i don't have any property, i don't think i will reach $15k in this lifetime. i'm also not a girl, and i don't have nikon lenscaps. i can see your point of view that the person you marry should be able to sustain your lifestyle.

putting all those silly love ideology rubbish things aside though, i really, really think that beneath it all, if you found someone good enough, all that won't matter. to me, at the end of the day, this life is too short to care so much about material goods. don't have enough money to buy good car? it's ok, i can walk. don't have enough money to buy good condo or landed property in nice location? doesn't matter, hdb is enough to hold my things. don't have enough money to buy camera gear? it's ok, i will handle other priorities first, next time then say.

but if you have enough money to do all these, but the person lying next to you, having dinner with you, whose kids you will be bearing (if you choose to do so)... means very little to you, then all of that would be tasteless. maybe it's ok, you can change it later on, but sometimes it is too late, when you have other things to think of.

yes, without money, also no love to talk about, got other things to worry about. but have enough money to live life comfortably... then maybe, don't care so much. lifestyle can change, luxury can reduce... having a lifelong partner that you cherish, that's far more important.

cheers, and merry x'mas.

:thumbsup:

let me summaries for you in one sentence :bsmilie:

find a guy with good character that will last both of your lifetime.

 

[night86mare]

jeanie that old meh? :think:

anyone older than me is old. :angry:

you are lao uncle!!! :bsmilie:

 

[flowerpot]

if i earn 30K per month... i wonder how i choose my partner... :think:

 

[night86mare]

:thumbsup:

let me summaries for you in one sentence :bsmilie:

find a guy with good character that will last both of your lifetime.

ya la, but zar bor, need to write long long things so that they will read mar.

you write so short, boh swee one. :bsmilie:

 

[sinned79]

if i earn 30K per month... i wonder how i choose my partner... :think:

if u are a guy, i think it is perfectly alright to find a gal earning much lesser then you.

but if u are a gal. i think u will really :think:

 

[redstone]

:thumbsup:

let me summaries for you in one sentence :bsmilie:

find a guy with good character that will last both of your lifetime.

If a girl love me when I'm having normal pay, vs girl love me when I have high pay, I'll prefer the first girl, cos the love is more true than the latter. And I know she looks beyond my money.

 

[flowerpot]

if u are a guy, i think it is perfectly alright to find a gal earning much lesser then you.

but if u are a gal. i think u will really :think:

im a guy... :bsmilie:

TS looking for a guy who is financially as capable as her mah... so im wondering if i earn 30K per month, what kind of girl i will choose...

 

[Taurean]

jeanie that old meh? :think:

Chances are Jeanie is older than nm ;p

anyone older than me is old. :angry:

you are lao uncle!!! :bsmilie:

Answer straight from the Goat's mouth :bsmilie:

 

[sinned79]

im a guy... :bsmilie:

TS looking for a guy who is financially as capable as her mah... so im wondering if i earn 30K per month, what kind of girl i will choose...

ok, then u can be friends with TS first just in case. :x

 

[night86mare]

If a girl love me when I'm having normal pay, vs girl love me when I have high pay, I'll prefer the first girl, cos the love is more true than the latter. And I know she looks beyond my money.

but what if the girl who love you when you have normal pay has estimated that you will earn $2 million a month at 30 and love you deep deep cos of that?

:bsmilie:

 

[redstone]

im a guy... :bsmilie:

TS looking for a guy who is financially as capable as her mah... so im wondering if i earn 30K per month, what kind of girl i will choose...

Hmm.. when I hear a girl say she wishes her future bf/husband earns $xxxx a mth, or if she says $Xk a mth is considered low, I'll ask if she herself is able to meet that kind of salary mark.

 

[flowerpot]

maybe i rephase...

girl looking for financially capable guy

guy financially capable so ? doesn't mean he will choose girl...

im sure if im earning 30K per month... i get alot more options and hopefully i get to find true love...

its not just finding someone... someone has to find you too...

 

[ed9119]

when my wife (then my gf) said yes to my marriage proposal..... i was barely making S$3000 (BEFORE CPF contributions and income tax) (in my early 30s then) monthly then ........ I had humble beginnings ...... those were days of counting pennies literally .....

I would like to think that she saw, admired.... and BELIEVED (beyond the love/loyalty/devotion thing) in my resolve, strength-of-character and ability(s) rather than my current earnings/savings then when she said 'yes'

And I think she made a very wise, personal decision to marry me ..... given how far we've come along from those days ...ha ha ha !!

There is NO guarantee that someone in their 30s making silly amounts of money will continue to generate that kind of income ..... pick a man you love who at the same time has the character/resolve/initiative to succeed than pick a man who happens to be in the right industry at the right time......

no offence intended (and apologies if you do feel otherwise) ...... yourself too....... WHO WERE YOU on DAY 1 ? .... before you had your supercars, properties and $$$ ...... probably a Nobody.... BUT someone saw the potential that you had, BELIEVED IN YOU and gave you that opportunity..... and you took it from there to be where you are today .....

so..... choose wisely

 

[kiwi2]

pardon me but I have to say this.

i think that TS is just too materialistic for her LTC bf. It's nothing wrong or right. Depends on your POV.

There is no point asking people how much such a typically ranked guy earns. So what? Can you predict the future? So what if he's earning $100k a month now? You can't predict the future. Celebrities earn millions every year but some of them end up bankrupt and suicidal. In TS' case, what if the guy *touch wood* has to have his career cut short for some reason? You gonna dump him?

If you are so concerned about how much he is earning and his future so that you could upkeep your supposed expensive lifestyle, I can suggest 2 options: Find out more about him, his goals, his dreams, etc and make your judgment from there. Are you telling me that if you now realize he only earns $8k a month (which seems to be pittance to you for a guy in mid-30s) you will no longer be interested in him immediately?

And come on, after 45, it's not the end of the road for such people. There are so many ex-officers who are surviving well and married. Unless you are the bitc** wife who demands he always earns more than you and his salary got to be pegged with your so-called industry standard (like what, $20-30k/mth or more by his mid-40s?)

Another option is: Dump him asap. Look for your typical banker, lawyer, successful doctor in private practice who can easily earn at least $20k a month and above, giving you that *false* sense of security knowing he can provide you or your future family with lots of $$$$.

 

[zaren]

you are lao uncle!!! :bsmilie:

so are you (to all the xmm's out there) :bsmilie: