Dear all concerned pals,
Oh, this thread really drags and i still cannot come up with a conclusion.
I've asked my GF if she likes me to charge her bro or not. She said "of course don't like, its my brother leh"
Then i tried to share a piece of my mind with her on how i felt being exploited and she don't want to listen much.
All she said was... Her bro wedding is not here yet, don't want to talk about it first.
Sigh... i've got mixed feelings. I agreed on both sides when you guys ask me not to take for her bro as i'm being exploited, as well as ask me to take for her bro so that i won't put my gf in a spot.
Hence, no conclusion for now.
But i truly appreciate you guys giving me alot of ideas, comments and sharing me with your experiences. If i really reply to every single one of you, this thread will be very long. Thank you pals. Will update again when i've decided.
Much appreciated.
palvin
In the realistic world people will always think of themselves, how they
could benefit from others without having to cough out the required
sum for a service. They won't get a good peanut service from a doctor
or a dentist and neither will there be a dream of getting such services
from any other related arena.
It's a tough battle for the industry to stop image seeking personnels
from their doings. Almost every human beings have some degree
of pride and learning to control such is vital as giving support to the
Ultimate for protection. Lets look at what others in the past have
mentioned on this subject:
"Be aware of...make every act an offering to me, and you
shall come to me; for you are dear to me.
Abandon all supports and look to me for protection. I shall purify you
from the sins of the past; do not grieve"
- Bhagavad Gita 18.65-66
A few questions you have to ask yourself.
1. Do you want your life to be able to flow between yourself
and others based heavily on a mutual giving from the heart?
2. Do you have a keen awareness of the interdependence of all
living beings, which are all part of one another, and all involved in
one another?
For many years I have refused to do free service abiding by the
rules of being a professional but as I matured more and more into
the industry the mode has to change when the need of keep up with
the healthy living of humanity. Giving more without feeling that
others are doing injustices to you is maturity in soul searching and
mindfulness. You just got to make a choice. In the end you still
have to bear with the outcome.
"We must come together as living beings, as together we can
create the harmony with which we can reach the love of
God. That is the entire purpose of creation.
- Rev. Sun Myung Moon
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"When we experience the pain of another person, we instinctively
want to take away that pain. But by taking away the other persons pain, we also take away his or her opportunity to grow.
To be truly compassionate, we must be able to share another
persons suffering and pain -- knowing there is nothing we can
do to relieve it and that we are not responsible for it, and yet
knowing and understanding what that pain feels like."
- John Gray
