:thumbsup: Thats a good one! But he is my potential bro-in-law leh. How?
In some ways, and depending on how much contact you and your future wife may have, the above statement says it all.
Besides the obvious that has been pointed out, sometimes, for 'family peace' we all have to do things we don't want to, or like.
But if your partner is in the opinion that you should not be taken advantage of, and is willing to rock the boat along with you, then it's your call.
Other than that, unless you use one of the suggestions mentioned by the others, or think of something, it looks like you're done for.
Another approach you could take is to
ask him to at least pay for expenses. What was it Belle & Sebastian shared once? Show him this list:
transport cost.
meeting the clients needs time and money,
confirming and collecting the retainer/deposit cost time and money.
meeting a few days before the client's wedding cost time and money.
going down to cover the wedding needs time and money.
going home to rest in-between the festitivies cost time and money.
going back to the dinner venue cost time and money.
returning home from the long day cost time and money.
meeting your clients to deliver your work cost time and money.
that is just transport cost.
albums,
sample albums, sample prints, sample pictures, sample CDs
electicity costs
computers need power
cameras need power
flashes need power
electric bills are going up again.
hardware cost
cameras cost money
camera parts cost moeny
lenses cost money
lens hoods cost money
filters cost money
memony cards cost money
batteries cost money
flashes cost money
camera bags cost money
computers cost money
ram cost money
harddisk cost money
monitors cost money
mouse, keypads, card readers, cost money
extention cords cost money
tables and chairs that you sit to edit your photos cost money
going to buy these equipment cost time and money.
softcopy costs
photoshop cost money
software to enhance your pictures cost money
other photo editing. enchaning slideshow software cost money
anti-virus software cost money
internet cost money
real or fake software, also need money to buy.
bills
phonebills need to be paid
servers need to be paid
marketing tools need to be paid
salary needs to be paid
cost of sales
CDs need money
DVDs need money
covers need money
paper need money
ink need money
paperback need money
office?
rental bills, car bills, tables, chairs, lights, water, fridge etc........
albums,
sample albums, sample prints, sample pictures, sample CDs
IF all else fails, this is what a cab driver once shared with me (when dealing with difficult relatives).
* This is not me or what I would use; I would most likely help, or say No outrightly.
1) Get pally with them. Basically, treat them nicely and gain their trust, or at least liking.
2) Call them up privately and say you need to meet to discuss something very important. Get that person to make time for you.
3) Meet up, and chit chat for awhile, and start stoking his ego saying that you really respect what he has achieved bla bla bla, and that you feel he is the only poerson who can help.
4) Ask to borrow 30K as you need to get some loansharks off your back.