a forward email dunno from who.... :bsmilie:
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Subject: Marriage & Love
Marriage & Love
It is regarding meaningful and inspirational information on marriage and love. I would like all to read and know for the good of your relationship and marriage.
Here it goes:
1. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.
2. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage.
3. A Couple should have certain level of chemistry and a sense of humorous
4. Good and stable career so we can put a home together which involved financial committment.
5. Both must share certain level of interest or must put in effort to cultivate new hobbies.
6. Never stop showering each other with praises, attention and acts of love to keep the passion going.
7. There must be a certain level of trust, communication, compromising before start of a new relationship.
8. Find someone who share a common goal in life despite it's either spiritually, buidling a family or earning more money.
9. Find someone who will make you a better person.
10. You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.
11. You have to feel safe with the person means you can communicate openly with the one.
12. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
13. You should choose to be with a person who is a mensch.
A mensch is a refined and sensitive person. He is always striving to be good and do the right thing.
This person is the opposite of a materialistic person who is dedicated to seeking comfort.
Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing.
14. The person you want to be with should enjoy giving pleasure to others instead of wrapping up themselves and self-absorbed.
15. You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse. If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.
16. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous.
The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart.
Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.
The more you seek quality, respect,growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you.. The easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
Before you get involved and make a committment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs.
Ask yourself, Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
Note: 2 things can happen in a marriage:
1. You can grow together, or
2. You can grow apart.
Bottom Line; Marry someone who wants the same thing.
Tips on what keeps a relationship strong:
1. Trust
2. Communication
3. Intimacy
4. A Sense of Humour
5. Sharing Tasks
6. Some getaway time without Biz or Kid
7. Daily exchanges(meal, hug, call, touch, notes)
8. Sharing common goals and interests
9. Giving each other space to grow without feelings insecure
10. Giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of committment.
IMPT: If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect and dishonesty; and pain will replace.
