How to convince wife?

[intrance]

when i want to buy something that really interest me like dslr.. i'll tell my wife out of courtesy and not asking her permission..
i buy with my own pocket money.. thus i need to save to buy one..

 

[rhino123]

As I have said and will say again... this thread is funny.

Now we have guys with all the almighty, i earn my money and I can spent on whatever I want without needing to talk to you first attitude... And we see guys trying out tactics and grand strategies/ scheme, ways and means to get something out of someone who actually trusted them...

Hmm... whatever happen to good ol' communication and whatever happen to the verse, "Marriage is base on mutual trust between husband and wife". And to all women out there... if this person can even think of grand strategies and scheme just to 'convince', 'or even push the blame of getting a S$1xxx item that he wanted...., Think of what he is capable of doing when he wanted other more 'expensive things'

A simple, "Dear, I think I wanted to buy a D7000, I love photography and my old camera is limiting me in (insert reasons - real reasons and not something that you lied about) ways."

Now I know why so many people are feeling the stress in this modern day society... Many troubles and stress are actually self-induse... trying ways and means to come out with reasons and excuses just to 'cheat' someone who trust you.... Of course at the spur of moments it would be like, "I am very clever"... but when you looked at it again... it was nothing but a big cheat...

And we are seeing guys who automatically assume that wife would buy expensive handbags and accessories while assuming guys didn't have any rights to get whatever they like... It was so... how to say... soap opera...

 

[donut88]

Hi,

I'm thinking of getting a DSLR - D7000, to be exact.

However, how do I convince my wife that I'd need a DSLR? currently using Panasonic TZ7.

Furthermore, the D7000 may be too big and heavy for her, which means that I'd be the only one using it.

Thanks for the advise in advance.


Dennis

Before u made any mistake, don't ever think that Dslr is better than compact camera.

Big doesn't mean better. Beginners always made this mistake. They buy Dslr, try to shoot kids or whatever and realize CMI. then they get frustrated.

If u wan fast shooting, and compact for both u and your wife to use, get the Sony NEX or the PEN or nikon J1 camera.

These are meant to be compact and easy for anyone to use, even kids can use it.

Dslr is restricted. What's the point?

 

[kei1309]

I think getting married means its not about 'me n myself' n 'mine n my money' anymore. It is not about 'asking her permission' but I think discuss will b a better word? I mean we r talking about a thousand or 2 here n not a hundred or 2. I would think At least shd respect the wife to discuss about using the family income.

yea. discussion.

ASK and it shall be given.

i don't know why MCPs think that it's called "asking for permission".

might as well tell the wifey "ma'am, permission to impregnate you tonight"

:bsmilie:

there's no harm in open talks when your motive is open and aboveboard. why make things difficult by going into espionage mode?

 

[TWmilkteaTW]

hmmm...actually im quite surprise this thread can go up to 6 pages..

 

[gabrielteo]

This thread is really amusing Please allow me to share related events about my wife myself and my cameras. When I got my D7000 I phoned my wife to ask/talk/discuss about it. And looking back, you know what the hardest thing was? To decide if I was asking my wife for permission, informing my wife about the decision or discussing about it. Because truth be told, our relationship is more important than the hobby or even the best picture I will ever capture. I ended up, if I can recall properly, simply starting the conversation about wanting to get the DSLR, and without me asking, telling or discussing about it, she offered to use her bonus to fund the purchase (I funded it myself in the end, no heart to take that offer). Fast forward a year of frantic photography, including holidays of carrying oversized and overweight camera bags, there has been no regrets about the purchase and any talk about it being expensive(not cos we have a lot of money), even recently on our birthday, she surprised me with a 2 lens nikon v1 kit (she has no idea about photography equipment at all and hence it is really a surprise).

SOOO, my advice is to keep your relationship as priority before the hobby and just start a conversation

 

[Denniswong]

Before u made any mistake, don't ever think that Dslr is better than compact camera.

Big doesn't mean better. Beginners always made this mistake. They buy Dslr, try to shoot kids or whatever and realize CMI. then they get frustrated.

If u wan fast shooting, and compact for both u and your wife to use, get the Sony NEX or the PEN or nikon J1 camera.

These are meant to be compact and easy for anyone to use, even kids can use it.

Dslr is restricted. What's the point?

Thanks! Makes sense.
Basically, as many of you have mentioned, I need to really convince myself why I want a DSLR first, before getting my wife's buy-in.

 

[Denniswong]

yea. discussion.

ASK and it shall be given.

i don't know why MCPs think that it's called "asking for permission".

might as well tell the wifey "ma'am, permission to impregnate you tonight"

:bsmilie:

there's no harm in open talks when your motive is open and aboveboard. why make things difficult by going into espionage mode?

Yes, communication is key here.
"espionage mode"... OMG.

 

[Denniswong]

hmmm...actually im quite surprise this thread can go up to 6 pages..

Ya, me too.
It's supposed to be a really simple thread on how to bring up this topic to get my wife's buy-in on a DSLR.
It's quite interesting to see all the variety of ingenious ideas and suggestions, and the different relationships between a man and wife, and the notions/definitions of being a "man".

To me, it's all about communication and harmony and accommodation.
There is no point in going out to get that DSLR, or big car, knowing that your significant half would not be too pleased with it.
I wouldn't be happy using it at all, even if I have bought it.

But of course, some of you may think otherwise, which is fine by me too.

Thanks for all the great ideas.

 

[Denniswong]

This thread is really amusing Please allow me to share related events about my wife myself and my cameras. When I got my D7000 I phoned my wife to ask/talk/discuss about it. And looking back, you know what the hardest thing was? To decide if I was asking my wife for permission, informing my wife about the decision or discussing about it. Because truth be told, our relationship is more important than the hobby or even the best picture I will ever capture. I ended up, if I can recall properly, simply starting the conversation about wanting to get the DSLR, and without me asking, telling or discussing about it, she offered to use her bonus to fund the purchase (I funded it myself in the end, no heart to take that offer). Fast forward a year of frantic photography, including holidays of carrying oversized and overweight camera bags, there has been no regrets about the purchase and any talk about it being expensive(not cos we have a lot of money), even recently on our birthday, she surprised me with a 2 lens nikon v1 kit (she has no idea about photography equipment at all and hence it is really a surprise).

SOOO, my advice is to keep your relationship as priority before the hobby and just start a conversation

Good one, gabrielteo.

 

[chillicutter]

So Dennis! How's the outcome?

 

[chillicutter]

Following this thread is better than watching Channel 8's local drama!:bsmilie:

 

[Sion]

Let me share how I get D7000. B4 I marry my wife, she already known i love to take picture and I own a film slr with 2 lens. 1 fine day I told her I want to buy a Dslr but not sure which 1 to get coz I need to get at least a D90 so that my old lenses can use on the body. After hearing these she stop me frm buying saying that it expensive and not sure if it a good body. So wat she did next is she borrow frm her friend a D7000 to let me play for a couple of days. After that I told her these... Dear.. It all your fault, now I want to buy d7000 instead of d90 coz it works better with my old gears and has better function which she is totally agree after I proofing it. 2 Things tat she didn't know: I have been eyeing on D7000 since day 1 not d90. I know tat most of her friend own d7000 but not d90. But of coz u must be able to put it in good use not juz leave it in the cabinet too.

The way I got my D7000 was with my winning in the casino which my wife didn't know.

I hid my old D90 under the bed and swapped its label with D7000. In all appearance I still used my old D90.

What my wife didn't know didn't make her unhappy.

As time goes by and I keep changing new cameras with more winnings from casino, I think one day when she vacuum clean underneath our bed she'll going to find a pile of DSLR bodies.

:bsmilie:

 

[soeypixels]

i want to buy a dslr
why
cos i want to take sexy photos of you! (actually is xmm in lingerie)
HAHAHA

 

[donut88]

Thanks! Makes sense.
Basically, as many of you have mentioned, I need to really convince myself why I want a DSLR first, before getting my wife's buy-in.

Ok, I share how I get my Dslr

When I decided to get one, I just simply tell wife abt it. She didn't say anything.

Then I just simply buy it one day. So simple. I came home with the Dslr and wifey was so surprised that I bought it so quickly!

She told me she thought i will take a very long time to buy it. She knows my habit of buying, I take usually long time to buy something.

So it's that simple. Anyway she supports my photography. I can just buy and sell stuff.

 

[Big Kahuna]

Like this?

http://m.yahoo.com/w/news_asia/jack...st_hdr=sg.news.yahoo.com&.intl=sg&.lang=en-sg

 

[henry soh]

You buy, I buy using own money. If u refuse, we downgrade from husband/wife to friend only relationship. If I refuse, you also can downgrade
relationship. 50/50 percent on any issue.

 

[kei1309]

You buy, I buy using own money. If u refuse, we downgrade from husband/wife to friend only relationship. If I refuse, you also can downgrade
relationship. 50/50 percent on any issue.

with people like you, no wonder divorce rates are going up

 

[BBTM]

TS, buy it during your Birthday as a gift for yourself, she can't complain much. Haha!

 

[sense rain]

bribe her with another item.. hee..
good luck

Hi,

I'm thinking of getting a DSLR - D7000, to be exact.

However, how do I convince my wife that I'd need a DSLR? currently using Panasonic TZ7.

Furthermore, the D7000 may be too big and heavy for her, which means that I'd be the only one using it.

Thanks for the advise in advance.


Dennis