As far as I remember, anyone who tried playing the victim card failed. Because firstly, they "fought" back against their taunters. And if the victims later sought to clear their name they are further humiliated. This cycle cascades on itself until he/she is finally banned or simply disappears. Just like the article said, if you go against the inner circle as an outsider, you'll lose.
There is usually nothing to claim. As the taunters will also claim he/she deserved the treatment. That, to me is more dangerous and dare I say most disgusting behaviour. Justifying one's bullying. There is absolutely no reason to be indulging in such actions, and be further blinded that what was done was good/acceptable. We can be better people than this and we should be.
I will definitely be reporting inappropriate posts to the mods in further such cases, and not just voicing in this little thread here. What I will not do is start a witch-hunt and cause an open divide between members. Just like how the victims should not have been publicly taunted, I will neither agree to having their accused tormentors publicly criticised. I will abide by the mod(s) final decision. That is my personal stand.
My hope is that people have read the above article, somehow realised what they (might) have done so far; identified what cyber bullying is and try their best to avoid such behaviour.
Thanks everyone else for dropping by. Remember to keep this civil and on-topic to have the thread remain open.
mm? the ppl who think they got cyberbullied can always press the report post function tat was what i meant hahaha.
as for the process of them being banned, remember that mods are the ones deciding, and so far... i found most of their calls pretty reasonable.
perhaps u might want to go a step further, and define what constitutes cyber bullying.
A forum bully is school ground throwback. Remember that middle school bully with his pathetic little band of sycophantic followers? That's a forum bully. In ways the forum bully is just a pseudonym for a troll, but with a major difference. While the troll's behavior is condemned by the group, the forum bully's actions are condoned by the group. Established members of the group, who don't agree with the forum bully, usually remain quiet while the bully tears apart people just for sport and as a demonstration of power within the forum.
Basically a forum bully is the equivalent of a popular troll -- a troll with power within the group. And therein lies the danger... ...
what this paragraph essentially says is that actions of a bully is condoned by the group and it is for a demonstration of power. what it does not say is the context in which bullying can happen and describing the action itself.
perhaps you could consider this definition instead?
forms of indirect bullying which are more subtle and more likely to be verbal, such as name calling, the silent treatment, arguing others into submission, manipulation, gossip/false gossip, lies, rumors/false rumors, staring, giggling, laughing at the victim, saying certain words that trigger a reaction from a past event, and mocking.
if so... now relook the "cases" you have mentioned (i'm not sure what are your cases) and see how many fits?
bullying is generally unjustified, unreasonable, behavior, to a large extent imposing false information onto others.
The context of the situation is also important.
for example. would u consider this to be a case of cyberbullying, or protecting the photography group?
http://www.clubsnap.com/forums/threads/711836-Beware-of-this-Photographer-stylist-amp-Editor
i'm not condoning the act of cyberbullying, if it really happens. what i'm worried is that people are unable to separate their emotions from their ideas and facts, and feel hurt just because someone gave a suggestion/opinion/fact that goes against their ideas, which in return is a very dangerous thing. ideas are objective, but ur emotions are subjective. sometimes one should withhold judgement first and perhaps PM the person who made the comment, and ask for further clarification. suddenly things can change a lot.
remember. words on the internet have no tone. u read ur own tones from the words.
what i'm proposing is... before we make the claim of cyber bullying, take a look whether is it a real case or not, rather than jumping to conclusions. if u decide that you have a case, bring it up to the mods.
it was a nice discussion though. keep this thread alive
