i want to sincerely thank everyone for their comments. this is by far the most controversial wedding thread i have ever opened and it's great feedback!
i have gone thru the montage once again with different music, but u know.. i think i'm stuck with the original. i think alot of my work is based on feel, so it's hard to explain why i chose this or that.
however, if some have misinterpreted the song, here's the lyrics just in case:
"The Reason" - Hoobastank
I'm not a perfect person
There's many things I wish I didn't do
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I'm sorry that I hurt you
It's something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish that I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
Thats why i need you to hear
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is You [x4]
I'm not a perfect person
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know
I've found a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you
I've found a reason to show
A side of me you didn't know
A reason for all that I do
And the reason is you
The main point of this song is changing for the person you love, and to start afresh (a marriage is like a new beginning). there are other subtle lyrics to point to the fact that he has hurt her before, and the whole song implies that it's a thing of the past.
the only line that implies that the reln is over is "And so I have to say before I go" which is not a very strong implication. most pple however thinks this is a "post-break up" type song.
i wonder though, if they've broken up, why would he change for her?

he should be changing for the next girl. herein lies the "hope" that the reln will go on, with him being a better man becos of her. this song, to me, is filled with love, and hope.
ok, back to the speed, as i, and a few have mentioned, the speed is due mainly to the tempo of the song, and while i could take away some images which are not as strong or technically weak (if you call grain "weak" ehehhee) then i can lengthen the duration of each image being displayed. but that will kill the "tempo" of the whole show.
i made this montage not for viewers to "SEE" the images, but to feel it. because as you briefly see the images (without pressing pause!!) u only have time for your initial feelings. you don't have time to say (as some of us photographers like to do) "why so dark" "why so grainy" "why hand chopped off" "why this" "why that". this isn't about imaging. it's about how you feel when you see it. if you feel stressed and jumpy becos of the speed, then i've failed, but if it's powerful enuff for you to realise that this is one truly happy couple and as one above has said he "wished the couple was me with my girlfriend" (thanx hottypot!), then i have truly succeeded.
i have taken note about the seeming lack of connection between the photographs, probably because this couple had a church wedding on one day, and the customary and banquet on the next. to make this more flowing, i could display the getting ready and groom arriving images FIRST, then the church, then the tea ceremony and banquet. but that's not how it actually went. if i did make this decision to swap the images around, it would be becos of "commercial" or marketing reasons, which i might do, to try to quell the impressions that my images don't flow with time, for those (which is most!) that don't know wat happened that day.
again, wanna thank everyone for the comments, it's given me alot of "ammo" to think about what i do, and why i do it, and where i am weak and should pay attention in future. thanx!!!
i still can't get over how varied the responses are... it's great!! i think it's good news for me, as "unique" work is often highly contested. of course, marketing "unique" work is a different matter (niche customers, smaller base etc), but we're not talking about that here. :bsmilie:
on a side note, i'm not one for the typical "lovey dovey songs" for weddings (don't ask me why.. i'm just wierd? ahhaha). ;p