perhaps you'd like to share a bit more info so we can be more specific with our advice.
Otherwise you'll just get a lot of "go for the 50D" or "go for the d90", and I'm not sure how helpful that is.
What have you gotten out of your search on the various digital camera comparisons on many reputable sites? Are any particular features of greater importance to you?
I rank ergonomics highly.
As much as I like the build quality of the xxD series of Canons, I couldn't quite overcome my misgivings about the placement of the on/off switch, at the bottom right of the LCD screen. I couldn't grab the camera out of the bag, and turn it on in 1 quick action.
Also, operating the wheel didn't feel natural to me.
These are just my opinions of course. You might feel totally different about these than me.
Agreed. The technical quality of modern DSLRs are pretty close. Probably you won't be able to tell which picture is taken with which camera. So, the more important thing would be usability and lens choice in my opinion.
A good DSLR to YOU should be one that YOU don't need to struggle to understand how to operate and that changing settings should be simple enough for YOU. Different people have different preference. So some like the Canon dial while others prefer Nikon's five way buttons. It's really up to you.
Lens choice is an important area to consider also. Look at the lenses that are available and see which brand suits your needs better. You've got to look beyond the kit lens because one day you may want to expand your arsenal with more specialised lenses.