to put it across simply, just get the tamron 17-50 non-vc, and start shooting.
the 18-55IS looks plastic, feels plastic, and the zoom ring turns 'chunkily', ie to say, it's not as smooth. what can i say. you pay a little more for quality. in the case of the 17-50, it's not that expensive as compared to what the canon 17-55IS would cost.
having fixed aperture, moreover at 2.8, gives you alot more freedom and control over the 18-55.
F2.8 vs F4 = 1 stop. that's the difference between shutter speeds of 1/50 and 1/100. if it's F5.6, it's even slower, giving you 1/25 shutter speeds. it does make a difference indoors especially. shooting with the 18-55 kitlens indoors has always been a pain; you'd either have to kick up ISO, or compulsory to use flash.