Originally posted by Altec
A very Asian phenomenon. You hardly read about molest in the West. In fact, hugging and kissing, even among strangers is a very acceptable way of greeting.
Are local woman too 'sensitive"?
Hugging and kissing (rarely mouth to mouth) are one thing. Groping breasts and pulling down a bodice are different things altogether.
I do think my sympathies lie with the bride. Situations such as these are emotionally very shattering and confusing, and it's all well and easy to suggest a course of action when you haven't been compromised yourself.
What this photographer did is unfortunate, and whether it will have a negative effect on the professional as a whole I have little idea. By definition, the vast majority of wedding photographers are "freelance", so I wouldn't read anything into that term.
The couple's wedding day and memories are irretrievably ruined in this situation. For many couples, the wedding day is the happiest day of their lives. This is the first of this particular situation that I've encountered, but the far more commonplace situation is where a photography enthusiast with no relevant experience believes he or she can shoot a wedding. Having been to a wedding, and covering a wedding as a sole photographer - whether paid or not - are very different things.
While there is clearly no criminal misconduct as in this situation, photographers have a strong moral (and often ignored, legal) responsibility not to ruin a situation that is, literally, once in a lifetime. A photographer shouldn't dream of taking on sole responsibility (again, irrespective of remuneration) until he has covered several without that burden of responsibility, and is experienced enough in photography in general to be able to meet Murphy's law head on. That includes having contingency plans, having backup equipment, and having professional liability insurance among other things.
While I do not know the situation in Singapore, overseas, couples have successfully sued photographers for failing to capture their wedding memories on film, to the tune of re-staging the entire wedding again so that the photographer could get it right. A sobering thought for anyone looking to break into the wedding market.
And just to link this back to the thread, that may also be a possibility for the couple to consider if the criminal action had failed or if they also seek compensation. Although, the damage has already been done, and though clearly they will get another photographer, the emotional scars are permanent.